About
Hey! I'm Tanya
I help women grow their business and attract dream clients with ease by getting visible online so they can make more money (we’re talking multi-6-figures), have more freedom, and make a bigger impact in their communities.
The meaning of life is to discover your gift... The purpose of life is to give your gift away.
The Story of
"Wholehearted"
I was the girl, who had the career, the home and the relationship that most people dream of but my life felt empty and meaningless. I kept thinking… “What’s wrong with me? Why aren’t I happy?”
CUE THE SOUL SEARCHING…
I took a yoga teacher training course. Yes! the course opened my mind, opened my heart, and gave me a profoundly deeper respect for my idol yoga teachers. They are master multi-taskers! But NO the answer was not in a career as a yoga teacher. I’m a much better student.
Then I thought maybe it was my relationship… so I broke up with my boyfriend… which sent me spiraling down into the darkness of heartbreak.
IT WAS THROUGH THIS DARKNESS THAT I FOUND MY LIGHT.
One very teary evening my friend introduced me to the work of Brene Brown. I watched all of her TED Talks and purchased her book, The Gifts of Imperfection.
It was then that I found the root of my unhappiness.
I STRUGGLED WITH PERFECTIONISM AND FEELINGS OF UNWORTHINESS
The first chapter of the book is titled “Wholehearted Living”:
"Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think, ‘No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.’ It’s going to bed at night thinking, ‘Yes I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging."
THIS WAS MY TURNING POINT.
Reading Brene Brown’s work felt like my entire life was leading up to this “aha” moment…
You are
worthy.
I wanted to become a coach so I could help people like you and me feel worthy.
WORTHY OF BIG THINGS LIKE:
- Being an influencer
- Recieving EPIC love
- Being a successful entrepreneur
- Making a difference in the world
- Sharing our authentic, unfiltered voices
And just as as I knew I wanted to become a coach I knew my business had to include the world Wholehearted in the name. And so “Wholehearted Life Coaching” was born and later became “Wholehearted Business Coaching” when I discovered my gift for helping women build their online businesses.
If you’re thinking…
“Clearly this girl didn’t have a job and had unlimited funds to work with.”
THAT AIN’T THE TRUTH MY FRIEND.
WHERE THERE’S A WILL THERE’S A WAY.
I had a corporate 9-5 job in the Commercial Insurance Biz (which I actually kind of liked), so I used every single day of the vacation time I had saved up to attend the courses IN-PERSON, and I negotiated a payment plan for the fees.
Thoughts like…
“I can’t afford it.”
“I can’t attend the classes.”
“I don’t have the time.”
are SELF-SABOTAGE.
THE FEARS WE DON’T FACE BECOME OUR LIMITS.
That’s not to say I wasn’t filled with fear and self-doubt! My own thoughts sounded like this:
“What if I don’t make my investment back?”
“What if I’m not cut out for this?”
“What will my family and friends think?”
“What if my employer finds out?”
“Am I wasting my time and money hoping this will work out?”
“What if I don’t get any results from working with this coach?”
WHAT WE SAY
we believe.
Day 1 with my coach it became abundantly clear that my mind had been playing crazy tricks on me for years.
“Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me”
That rhyme is a lie!
“The words we SPEAK become the house we LIVE IN”
And my mind was full of self-sabotaging thoughts:
“Don’t speak you have nothing important to say”
“I’m nothing special”
“I’m not good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, or capable”
I was constantly looking at others and thinking I was “less than”.
A CLUTTERED MIND CANNOT SEE OPPORTUNITY CLEARLY.
With thoughts like that it’s no wonder I didn’t believe in myself and my abilities. The words we speak have the power to limit us and they, similarly, have the power to free us.
What we say, we believe, and our brain believes it.
My thoughts were preventing me from getting what I truly wanted, from being my true self and from realizing my true potential.
Through my Professional Coaching Certification Program at the Adler School of Psychology and working with my own High-Level Business Coach, I shifted my mindset, gained confidence in myself, and developed my own powerful coaching style.
I know now that I have a gift that changes people’s lives.
Who am I to keep it all to myself?
You have the power
to create change
In fact, a beautiful soul once explained it like this…
“Keeping my powerful gift to myself is like masturbation…”
I’m only pleasuring myself with it. I’m keeping all that information, experience, and intuition to myself, when it has the power to change someone’s life.
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
ARE YOU READY NOW?
Thoughts like…“Ok but not yet… maybe in a month, or next year… maybe in 5 years from now.” OR “I’ll do that when…“ are limiting your future.
Not feeling ready is fear sabotaging your future.
EVERYTHING you want is on the other side of fear.
And boy has that been true for me… All of the biggest opportunities and best experiences in my life have come from leaping before I felt ready.